I have always been a touch jealous of Felix’s room, both in this house and in our old apartment. He has good taste, loves to mix colors and patterns, and has a penchant for displaying his most treasured possessions on his nightstand — never far from reach.
But something shifted when we moved here. He went from being a somewhat particular kid, to being an extremely sensitive, overly controlling boy. That nightstand of treasures that I mentioned? If someone so much as touches one item on there, he loses it. And I mean LOSES it. He struggles having kids come over to play, especially if it involves playing with/looking at/being near his stuff. Even the mention of someone coming over can send him into a spiral of tears, nerves, and stress. I’ll admit that he most definitely gets these qualities from me. I like things in their place, I always want to know what is going to happen, and a solid timeline is my favorite thing in life. But this is different. His reaction to the simplest things send me into my own spiral. I think it’s safe to say that most parents have days/weeks/months where they feel like they are completely failing. I am most definitely having one of those weeks.
Going through a big move is tough. Going from having no one to having everyone all at once is hard. Changing everything about your life at the age of 7 is incredibly difficult. I get that (and I’ve had to do the same things multiple times in my own childhood). But there has to be a way to shape my darling, clever, sweet boy into a flexible, go with the flow (at least a little bit) kind of kid. This is where you come in (especially those of you that are/have an only child). What tips do you have for us? It’s not so much a sharing issue, but more of a control issue. I feel for him because I understand. As an adult, I can swallow the panic of something being messy/out-of-place/slightly imperfect. I can (at least a little bit) go with the flow. I am also working on these things, right alongside Felix. And it’s hard, but I am praying non-stop that this kid can lead a life without set expectations, that he can enjoy time with friends, and he can loosen up the non-existent control he is attempting to have in every situation.
Remember the nightstand I mentioned above? That was intended to kick off Felix’s room tour. So let’s get back on track.
Treasures in their EXACT spots.
Souvenirs from around the globe sitting on top of my Grandpa’s dresser. My favorite is his hot pink David tied for first with the Mexican cake topper showcasing a bride and groom skeleton couple.
Enough Japanese Pokemon comic books to last a lifetime along with vintage trucks/campers/wagons and am impressive display of Lego creations. Those felt bins with leather handles are incredible and hide all the chaos that Legos and coloring supplies bring. In our apartment, Felix got into the habit of putting his Legos on these bookshelves. It was great except these bookshelves were in my dining room and it drove me absolutely mad that our books were being taken over by Ninjago fortresses. Like I said, I know where he gets it from. I decided he could put his Legos here all day long, so long as these bookshelves were in his room and not a shared space. It’s working better for everyone.
We bought a pair of these vintage metal beds from the previous home owners and I am completely in love. The quilt is Pendleton and has been a long time favorite/desired item.
Pano for perspective.
The vintage Moroccan rug came from The Elegant Nomad and is beyond dreamy, faded in all the best spots, and makes for the best play area. Lastly, a never-ending love of his wooden blocks. I still maintain that this was the best $50 we have ever spent on any child related product. Years of entertainment thanks to Melissa and Doug.
And that concludes this portion of the tour. Stay tuned (subscribed?) for more.